All You Ever Wanted To Know About Marriage

If you've gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care— then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don't push your way to the front; don't sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help others get ahead. Don't be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.

Phil 2:4-5

It was a hectic day and we were both wearing down. In the middle of preparing for a move in two weeks, and juggling carpet measuring, paint inspecting, and checking on a dog that was sick earlier, one of those moments that makes marriage great happened.

Bunny was about to take a load of clothes out of the dryer, and asked me to do it, because she was too hot. So I took the clothes out and placed them in the basket. I then began to take them into the bedroom. "I do them in the other bedroom" she said, so I headed in there. I began folding towels. She looked at my attempt and picked a towel up and said "I fold them like this."

"Right, but I fold them like this, always have."

She grinned and said, "Well, in the years we've been married, I have folded thousands of towels. You are up to... 8 or so. So since they fit in the closet better, let's do them this way."

We did.

We laughed. It wasn't because anything was especially funny.

It was because we're still in forever love.

One of the tougher passages for people outside the family of believers in Jesus, is the whole concept of mutual submission in marriage. The scripture isn't exactly written in a way that appeals to people in today's culture. But really, anyone whose purpose in life is to gratify themselves, and make sure they get what they want will have a problem with most of the New Testament.

Our Leader, Savior, King - God's Son - is Jesus. He came to serve. He could have had everyone laid out as His feet - instead He washed His closest follower's dirty feet. If you had to put a slogan to His work here on earth, a good start would be "Whatever It Takes". That takes a special kind of Christ-led heart. It means forgetting yourself, long enough to lend a hand.

Or fold a towel.

That's what servant-leaders, male or female do. And it goes a long way toward having a great marriage if you both are committed to following Jesus - loving Him first, loving each other second, loving yourself third.

Stay tuned though, as soon as I find something I've done for her thousands of times that she hasn't, I'll make sure she does that MY way. Don't wait up. :)

Let's get our hearts ready to lift God's glory high this weekend as we worship together.

Grace!

David

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How Do The Blind See Jesus?

I don't often read Relevant magazine. Not because I'm not relevant, but because they often walk father down that path than I'm comfortable. Today though, I read an article from Matt McDonald called The Language of the Church He describes himself as a first year adult. I liked that. But I liked this more. After talking about "what if's" like "What if God had made the sky orange instead of blue?", he rolls out the big guns.

I have another favorite "what if." If a person is born blind, having never seen anything in their life, how do you explain color to them? Having never seen anything, the word "blue" would be meaningless to them. "Shade,"hue,"darkness,"light,—none of these things could be communicated to someone who has never seen anything. They would have no point of reference for understanding such concepts.

That person who was not raised in a church environment-—that person who grew up in a world where God did not exist and Jesus was never an option, —what do they see when they come to Christ? When they find Jesus, when they experience salvation, what do they associate with it? They surely don''t see church. They don''t hear church language and quote church slogans and catchphrases. "Holy," "hallelujah,"glory,—these words might have no meaning to them. How do the blind see Jesus?

However it is, that is what I want. God existed before church did. I want to see what He looks like without looking through the lens of a well-crafted service or message. But to truly do that at this point in my walk would take more than a strong-willed mind. I would have to rewrite the language that I have learned. For us to see God that way, we would have to stop talking about Him the way we do and start doing things differently.

I needed to read this today, because I'm praying hard about what the next wave we at New Hope send out from our body of believers into the community should be. We gave away three Bibles last night to people who had never had one before. We had people yesterday as a result of the messages I didn't want to bring - on the DaVinci Code's distortions and the Biblical truth - get exposed to how we really got our Bible and why we can trust it. Sometimes, I'm blind. Because I'm immersed in church. Because I hang out with church people.

I'm blind.

But I want to see... people come to know Jesus.

I want to be around people more who don't know Jesus - who don't know the Bible - who don't even realize what's missing from their life is - LIFE! Somehow, someway, we have to build more bridges for people to walk across to find Jesus. Our church, our people have to live like they are in a culture that doesn't share our values, or even approach truth as we do.

Why? Because God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever would believe in Him would have eternal life.

So thanks Matt, for helping me think about how the blind see Jesus.

Grace!

David

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The Hardest Part

I was just reading a story about a 7 year old boy who successfully completed a swim from Alcatraz to San Francisco's shoreline this weekend. Yes, you read that correctly, a seven year old boy. Braxton Bilbey has had that feat as a goal ever since he read about a 9 year old doing it last year. So he trained, got the right equipment, and lined up a support team. Everything was in place for him to succeed.

When they asked Braxton what the hardest part was, he said "the swimming."

LOL

I was reading today how the religious people in Jesus' day had developed a series of rules - 613 of them in fact, to "help" people please God . When pressed by them to give His understanding of what someone should do who wanted to please God, Jesus said:

29-31Jesus said, "The first in importance is, 'Listen, Israel: The Lord your God is one; so love the Lord God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy.' And here is the second: 'Love others as well as you love yourself.' There is no other commandment that ranks with these." Mark 12 (The Message)

What's the hardest part of all of that?

The loving.

It's not easy to sustain all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy, is it? And there's the fact that to love people you have to... well, love people.

It might sound impossible, but remember, nothing is impossible with God. Give Him your everything, and you'll lack for nothing. Including everything you need to live a life pleasing to God.

Grace!

David
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